GOALS. I have always considered them the fuel of my engine, the carrot along the way.. my biggest motivation and drive in life.
Something that I only just realized is that my kind of goals were not just little approachable obstacles to overcome, they have always just been giant mountains to climb…
And that’s already where everything starts to go wrong: SETTING GOALS TO HIGH!!
What happens to our body and mind when Goals become disappointments?
I start raising my shoulders up to my ears, closing my chest to protect what’s in and grinding my teeth until the jaw catches on fire…
Our moods will switch several times a day, making our body presence change.
We turn into grumpy Bull Dogs ready to bark, where we see everything wrong and everyone against us, or into delicate and fragile Bambies, putting all faults and other’s disappointments onto our shoulders.
And it is exactly those Disappointments that make us sad. And being sad and frustrated can easily lead us to depression (it might sound dramatic but it does..).
Instead of falling into a dark bubble… How about finding a way where we could all just be butterflies?? Wouldn’t the world be a better place then?
I do know that we all want to be the best version of ourselves (hopefully).. and life isn’t always as easy as we wish it to be.
I also believe that there are a few techniques that personally helped me during these times… (Yes, I definitely can say that my inner Bull Dog usually takes over… but most of the time because my Bambie doesn’t wanna show herself to life…).
BREATHE : Did you know that conscious meditative breathing is the fastest way to calm you down? Deep, slow inhalations and exhalations are proved to induce calm and tranquillity.
LAUGH: Let’s say that one day everything goes wrong, or that we understand that our famous “goal” is not even close to become reality…
We have 2 choices: 1- cry our heart out and hate life or… 2- laugh about it!! Get out, meet your friends, see things from a different perspective and laugh about your disasters!!
MOVE: You like running? Run. You like walking? Walk. You like swimming? Swim. Exercising is known to help fight depression and boost our mood. And on top of releasing endorphins, bursting out during a hard workout can also help burning out an awful lot of “bad stuff”.
LOVE: Yourself first!! Take a warm bath, go for a good massage, have your nails done… whatever makes you feel good and loved… do it!!
And last, but for sure not least
YOGA: Personally, my best way to breathe, move, sweat, love and laugh in a full all-in-one package.
I like to think of yoga like drinking coffee: you never love the first cup, and before you even realize, you’re totally addicted. And not only as a physical practice, but the whole lifestyle that comes with it…
So, take time to go on your mat. Connect to the breath. Listen to the body and move through your problems.
It may not be all flowers at the beginning… but past the struggle, the tensions in the body will let go creating space for new positive emotions to take over.
You’ll feel alive, empowered and ready to conquer the world!
So, set reasonable goals, learn to manage your fears, embrace the ups and downs…
I have been looking to reach perfection all my life and you know what?? There is not such a thing!!
I now decide to be perfectly imperfect and enjoy life… who is in??