ME. In an interview by DagnyDay

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me.

In an interview by DagnyDay

Name: Francesca Golfetto

    > Age: 29

    > Live: Oslo

    > Do: Retired Ballerina / Yoga teacher

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    > 1. How do you prefer to spend a Sunday:

In an active way. I am not very good at relaxing, I am afraid… I wake up super early, have a yoga practice and then I am ready to do anything that involves experiencing something in the sweet company of my Love.

    > 2. What does beauty mean to you:

I would lie if I said that external beauty doesn’t matter. It does…quite a lot.

As a ballet dancer, it is a part of the package. We are exposed to many people, who expect to be entertained by traditional beauty, in all aspects of the job. It is also one of many criteria for being “picked”, which I believe is not unique for ballet dancers.

Having said that, I believe that the focus on external beauty alone creates unhealthy pressure and behaviour. Without falling into a number of clichés, beauty needs to be defined through a combination of a person’s strongest preferences. That combination for me, is when I feel happy…

    > 3. What does success mean to you:

There are so many ways to succeed in life.

My ambitions have always been to win. To be the best at what I was doing. No matter what.

Already now, having a little one in my tummy makes me have the feeling that THIS will probably be the biggest success of my life.  

I mean, what is greater than actually creating a life??

 

    > 4. What does balance mean to you:

I wish we were only speaking about the “physical” kind of balance…

I find it much easier to stay up on my toes or upside down on my hands than to keep it in real life…

So yes, to be honest, I tend to be totally out of balance… When I get into something, I throw myself in, forgetting the whole world around me (very goal oriented!).

Thankfully I always had a family behind that kept my feet on the ground and “forced” me to actually have a LIFE outside of my bubble…Balance to me is to generate enough challenges to create continuous improvement, but not too many (or the wrong ones) to drive me into my bubble for too long.

    > 5. How would you describe your style?

Random!! And for sure Animal inspired…😉 Haha. I can go from dressing up like the most classy girly girl (and loving it!) to a hippy, rocky, boyish, casual style. I must say that after becoming a yoga teacher, living in my beloved yoga pants made my “style” suffer quite a lot… I need to step up my game 😉

    > 6. Motto:

Good is the enemy of great

    > 7. The first thing you do when waking up in the morning and before going to bed:

The first I think about when I wake up is..FOOD!!!! I am a  morning/breakfast person, which doesn’t really suit my new Yoga practice routine… #hardestsacrificeever!!!!

Even though I always wait to eat until after practice, no one can take away my coffee 😉

Knowing that the struggle is real in the morning… before going to bed, I always make sure I have a little snack.

Once in bed I always like to think about how the day has been and what my plans will be for the day after.

I used to do journaling, but that was more when I was struggling mentally with many different things.

If I did it now, I think it would automatically bring me back to those memories… so I would rather focus my thoughts in the mind.

Maybe I will go back to it…just not right now!

 

     > 8. Inspired by:

People that I admire and respect. People who dare, have drive and want to make a difference, keeping a humble and easy attitude.

 

    > Tell us a little about your history:

    > What was it like being a ballet dancer?

It was everything from being the most wonderful fairy-tale to the worst nightmare…

Have you watched the movie “The black Swan?” Well, take away the “Hollywood” part of it, that comes very close to reality… at least for me.

My life was my job.

I felt like I lived in the theatre, and anything that didn’t have to do with it, came as a distraction.

In my free time (which already wasn’t much) I went to the gym to lose weight, sewed point shoes, watched videos of myself dancing and, many times, I ended up in the studio alone rehearsing something that, in my eyes, wasn’t just good enough.

Fun life hey?

I am not saying that it is like this for everybody… like I mentioned before, I am not very good at keeping a balanced life… and obviously back then, I totally lost it.

I guess that’s what happens when you want/love something so much that you are willing to do anything to reach it…. Because dancing and owning my stage was, at that time, all that mattered.

 

How was your life different then? Do you miss it?

I miss dancing a lot and there is still not one day that passes when I don’t think about it.

Until not too long ago I could not even walk by the Opera without starting crying, and any ballet talk, classical music, photos or “ballet” friends would be way too much to handle.

It has been extremely hard, but looking at my life now…. I will never change it or go back there!!

Before my life was in the theatre and eventually home to sleep. Even then, you have no idea how many times I wished I could just sleep in the changing room couch instead…

I did not have time to enjoy anything else really…

Now I love my life. I love meeting new people. Have time to spend around the city, go for walks, enjoy the nature, take care of the house and most of all have time and energy to spend with my Love. Now I know that this is what makes me really happy.

> What happened when you hurt your ankle? How did you feel when you had to quit ballet? How did you move on?

It was like a terrible death. I felt like my life had been taken away from me. I did not have energy or will power to react… I was in a very dark place for a while.

I tried all kind of rehab, injections, physiotherapy, surgeon consultations, long resting periods… nothing worked.

It took a year before I decided that I had enough of hospitals, doctors and ankle speeches…

The Injury was not caused by a traumatic fall or accident.

I was just in a lot of pain for a long time… but we (ballet dancers) all are really.

Considering that I had danced on broken toes and bones before.. I should have known that the situation was similar if not worse.

But, like always, I felt that the schedule was too busy, so with the daily help of a lot of “drugs”, I just kept going… until I couldn’t anymore.

It was during a classical performance in November that I felt that something really happened. The pain became completely unbearable. I finished the show with tears running down my face and after being told off from my director that I had not been up to my standards…I decided it was time for a break. Oh yeah, and I was not believed that I was in pain or injured…

I knew something was bad, but I obviously did not realize how bad it was.

My ankle was a like a cocktail of all kind of ingredients that went from fractures, to chronic inflammations to a nerve damage.

It didn’t take too long before I understood that getting up again, on my beloved point shoes, became thin medical theory (squeezing out the few positive statements from all the kind professionals who helped me), rather than a realistic target.

    > How come you started practicing yoga?

I have always been attracted to yoga in one way or another.

I started practicing when I lived in Zurich over 10 years ago, as a supplement to my ballet training and to benefit from a change of environment.

I practiced when I could after moving to Oslo, but It was not until my injury that I decided to really dive into it.

   

> Did yoga change your life in any way and in that case, how?

Yoga saved my life!!

I went from not being able to move from bed and constantly crying, to the happy person I used to be, and that I am now.

Every day, no matter how I felt, I knew that after practice I would feel better.

I was very lucky to meet my teacher Basia, who never asked me what happened or why I was crying. She didn’t show pity for me in any way. She just told me to move on, she guided me through the Ashtanga practice and she expected me to be there every day.

In no time, I was hooked with a passion I didn’t think I could feel anymore.

I spent every morning on my mat and afternoons studying Yoga philosophy, Sanskrit and Pranayama.

Not too long after that I was asked to teach and just like that, my new life started.

    > What does yoga mean to you?

Understanding. Support. Freedom. Love and happiness.

I see my yoga practice as a mirror of how I am doing mentally and physically every day.

It supports me through the ups and downs, challenges me daily and teaches me how to deal with those challenges in “real” life.

It brought back the too loud, daring, fearful person I always used to be, because on the mat, I became stronger and freer.

I practice and I get happier, and by teaching a lot of people now, I can see that everyone gets happier…

So why not doing it??

 

    > Imagine talking to someone who never tried yoga before; What would you tell them yoga is and why should they try a yoga class?

I think the idea of yoga as something too spiritual and deep scares people off at the beginning.

I am not afraid to share what yoga did for me, but whatever the motivation is that get people on the mat, I believe is right. Because from my personal experience, I know that the “package” will follow.

If I have to challenge someone that is “against” yoga I usually ask: “when was the last time you were breathing properly?”. Then I make them try… the rest comes 😉

    > Stress is a huge problem for many people today, why do you think that is? What is your relationship to stress? How can people overcome stress?

I spent some energy on thinking about stress. My thoughts are obviously not the truth, but it helped me personally to write a blog about it. Here are a few of the thoughts I put down on paper:

“Today’s society requests a lot. It’s always about “Constructed Perfection” and rarely about what’s good for you or me.

We live a life through social media, where everything looks shining and perfect.

We compare ourselves too much.”

Personally, I have a huge amount of unprocessed stress in my body and mind. When you have hit the bottom, I believe it is hard to avoid slipping again… and it is also totally normal!

In fact, no matter how happy and grounded I feel now, I can be completely thrown off from the smaller happening without reason.

The difference is that now, I am aware of it, and through Yoga and breathing I know I have the best tools to overcome it.

And you know what? The day I decided “Now I am just gonna be me” everything changed.